Helping Your Loved Ones Get Over Their Grief

 

Life is an unpredictable thing. When you finally feel like you got the hang of it and start to make plans something happens that will change the course of your plans and you are left wondering what to do or even think. It may seem to be a complex mess of events that id out of your control. You may feel like can never get to the steering wheel and you will always be a person on the passenger seat. Whatever you feel or however you interpret it we cannot change some events in our lives. Pain is very real and however much we try to avoid it or run away from it simply catches up on us.

So since running away is not an option what can we do to help ourselves and our loved ones get over this sudden changes in life? Especially grief.

There are different ways in which you can help others deal with their grief. Different people handle pain and grief differently and the way they may respond to help may also differ. For an example if he or she is a very independent person offering to help them may cause them to think that they are dependent on someone else. This will bruise their ego and make them to withdraw in to themselves more. But there are basic things that you can do to ensure that you are offering them some form of comfort.

First of all don’t say anything. When disaster strikes sometimes we don’t know what to day immediately. It can be a very sudden event. One moment you are ok and the other you are not. One moment you are happy and your family is well off and the next moment it is scattered and divided with grief. So in such moments you should choose your words carefully. People have their own way of dealing with pain and our role is to make it easier for them to deal with it rather than make it worse. So when bad news hits what you have to share their grief silently with them. Words does not matter. It is your presence that really matters.

You must help them fill their void and get their day to day activities done. If they are physically disability there are certain disability services in Adelaide that are available to help those who are struggling with a disability. They can live the independent life they led but with a bit of extra help that one should never be ashamed of. We all need help and if your body or mind needs help it is ok to go get that help.

The disability service providers cover a wide range of daily needs like helping with the household chores to helping you to get to the toilet and hygiene needs.

After helping them to get back on track you job is not over. You must constantly check in on them. There can be lapses and they can go back to a worse scenario than the previous.

Another thing that you have to do is to make sure they get professional help if you think that they need it. Most people don’t like to be going to a professional therapist or a doctor because that lowers their self-esteem thinking there is something seriously wrong with them. But you can make it informal and not a big deal. Everyone needs help and if they don’t get it it is our duty to help them get it.

 

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